During our uncertain times committed primary couple relationships are facing increasingly complex issues and as a result challenging relating. Perceived acts of betrayal or secrecy within committed relationships can rupture the natural flow of important norms of intimate connection. Many contextual factors can complicate issues of what is private versus secret, and what form of communication or relating represents betrayal and why. These factors include, social media use, access to pornography and sex work, social isolation restrictions in the times of COVID, periods of long distance relating, separated or blended family structures, and at times each individuals’ overwhelming and competing life demands. As Esther Peral (2007) unpacks in Mating in Captivity a modern primary committed relationship is looked to function as secure base, providing both practical and domestic support and emotional and sexual intimacy. This is a challenging load and ruptures to connection are understandably common. Many couples, unwilling or unable to separate for psychological, emotional, familial and financial reasons, and will settle for a less than satisfying experience relating, in essence building a defensive wall around the rupture event, their internal experience and the impacted area of their relating. The pain of relationship rupture in these forms is often endured or repeatedly cycled through with mental health consequences for one or both members of the couple. However, using processes drawn from CFT and EFT, this kind of couple distress can an opportunity for the deepening of intimate emotional relating, the healing of old wounds and the establishment of better skills of emotional regulation (for the individuals) and the co-regulation of emotions (for the couple). Preliminary research in marital satisfaction suggest the mediating factors of resilience and self-compassion (Amani & Khosroshahi, 2020), while high psychological flexibility and self-compassion has been shown to mediate chaotic-enmeshment and anxiety in family functioning (Berryhill, Hayes & Lloyd, 2018). Drawing from her 23 years of clinical practice, personal journey of conscious relating, and wide variety of resources from this fascinating area, most specifically CFT and EFT, this workshop will impart conceptual frameworks and practical powerful processes that can be used directly in couples therapy to navigate this delicate terrain and improve individual life satisfaction and couple relationship quality.
Kate Mutimer is a psychologist with 20 years experience working with individuals and groups in community health and organisational settings. Kate is a meditation and compassion teacher and a trained Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) teacher. She has specialist knowledge and extensive experience in practicing psychotherapy and facilitating change. Kate’s clinical background includes clinical assessment and treatment of depression, anxiety and personality disorders, adolescent and family counseling, working with issues of sexuality, relationships and identity. Kate has also spent time lecturing at QUT and Griffith University in Change Management, group facilitation, applied counseling psychology and family studies. Currently, Kate Works in private practice and within workplace wellbeing initiatives, providing a broad range of mental health, stress management and other lifestyle solutions. Kate is registered as a generalist Psychologist with AHPRA. She is also a full member of the Australian Psychological Society.
$29 to purchase and keep the recording of this event.
Live Interactive Webcast registration
Fees: $199 Primary viewer (includes three month's access recording of the event.
$99 Additional viewer (must watch on same device as primary viewer)
$29 Purchase lifetime access to the recording (available to primary viewer only)
Reminders for all events are sent two weeks, one week, one day and one hour prior.
Learning objectives of this training:
“What’s difficult in life is to stay centred when somebody does or says something that tempts us to close our hearts because their heart was closed. That is hard. But that is also how we grow. We go through those circumstances in order to evolve into people who can hold to our loving centre no matter what the world throws at us.” Marianne Williamson
How will you benefit from attending this training?
Morning Session (includes a short break)
Afternoon Session (includes a short break)
9:00am - 12:45pm
Includes a 15 minutes break at 10:45am
12:45pm - 1:45pm
1:45pm - 5:00pm
Includes a 15 minutes break at 3:15pm
COVID-19 AND YOUR SAFETY
This Accor hotel has a fully implemented plan attending to the health and safety of all venue attendees.
You will be required to abide by the safety measures current at the time and in line with public health orders. These will be advised in your pre-event reminder/information emails.
In the interest of everone's safety, the venue and PDP reserve the right to deny entry to any participant who chooses not to follow the current COVID safety plans.
This venue offers wheelchair access from the street level.
Conveniently located right by several bus routes and a 7-minute walk to Parliament Station.
Links to reasonable early-bird parking close to the venue:
All day tea, coffee and water are provided.
If you have pre-purchased lunch, hotel staff will have you selection ready for you.
The venue has a restaurant and is surrounded by cafes and restaurants should you choose to eat out.
Please note that lunch bought from outside providers cannot be eaten in the hotel.
The seminar venue is the Mantra on Russell Hotel which offers a discount on accommodation for the PDP community. Please quote the code RUSSELL2021
Quest on Lonsdale is a 6 minute walk from the venue.
Hotel Grand Chancellor is a 2 minute walk from the venue.
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